One of the toughest challenges in any relationship (as partner, parent, sibling, friend or lover) is to endure the rough and ugly moments. Life is not the movies where the only moments we will ever share are those well-parcelled little moments of perfection. There is a whole heap of less than delightful stuff that goes on too, and ultimately they are what make those other moments so wonderful.
The world is bursting with ‘words of wisdom’ when it comes to love and matters of the heart. Little pearls and gems that we read in passing and think to ourselves “Oh, I totally understand that!”. One thing I’ve found is that there are always times when you simply cannot find the words you want to express everything that is in your heart.
Love can span any divide; of society, politics, religion, race and gender. The challenges that this puts before us can be enormously overwhelming; in this world that often tries to belittle and damage us not for something we have chosen but for a decision in which we had no choice.
No relationship is without its difficulties; anyone who tells you otherwise is selling something. We will have challenges, but we should see them as opportunities for growth and a deeper understanding and unity between each other.
Learning how to understand someone and communicate with them effectively is just one step towards creating a truly unique and lasting relationship. Being able to grow together through even the most painfully trying times (when you really just want to walk away) can result in a depth of understanding and passion that no-one else can touch.
There is a heady intoxication associated with love. Powerful emotions fill us, surging and roaring, making our every thought brighter. Suddenly no dream seems unlikely, no fantasy too far-fetched, no life more satisfying.
Life provides innumerable reasons to be afraid. When we’re young, it’s fears of failing tests, or being caught stealing the loose change out of your mum’s purse. Then as we get a little older it can be fear of rejection by our friends, fear of not being good enough for someone special…
The silliest things we say and do with our loved ones often become our most lasting memories, and the times we remember most fondly. Whether it’s a night under the stars in the backyard, a romantic holiday to a haven by the sea, or a simple but special moment shared at your own kitchen table.
The simple gifts we give each other, both material and emotional, are things that can change a person’s perspective, uplift them, make them smile and most importantly, they show how much we truly understand and care for one another.
Remember when you were about sixteen, and that first love came out of nowhere? Do you remember how the entire world burst into vibrant colour from a single point of adoration?
One of the craziest things about falling in love with someone is that all the songs start making sense. Old songs you never particularly liked before become vitally important, and Top 40 stuff you’d never usually admit to listening to makes your feet tap and your heart bop
There are plenty of people we like – but the difference between the good friends and the people you truly love is simple: you’d share anything with the one you love.
Love is a potent drug. A very dangerous one. It makes us act like complete fools. Our mind pours out from within us endlessly, and we drive everyone around us crazy with babbling and nonsense.
…when you open your heart and arms instead of your mouth and simply be there for the ones you love – these are the times that bring a closeness and unity that no hurt can ever touch.
Do you remember the first time you fell in love? How the mention of a certain name captured all of your attention? How …
Love is not all knights and damsels, silver-screen moments & Hollywood perfection. Those we love will hurt us, and you will at times hurt those that love you. Anyone who tells you otherwise is selling something.
…when you’re eating a jam donut, or a vanilla slice (or pretty much any pastry) and you know someone you want to just give it to because that’s how much you love them – then you are definitely onto a good thing.
Love: It is above all value, cannot be re-gifted, and is irreplaceable by any other treasure.
I remember I took my little sister to Yum Cha (饮茶) in Sydney’s Chinatown once. She had absolutely no idea what to order, and as time slipped by and I stuffed myself with pork buns, she was running out of time. She looked at me and said “I trust you, order me something I will like.”
Being able to look past the negativity, say to each other “we’re hurting, but I love you so let’s fix this together” is one of the most important moments you will ever have.